You thought you'd stay married for life and suddenly wanted out or were left in the lurch, wondering about your future. A second marriage is your chance of finding true, deep, enduring happiness that probably eluded you in the first. Do not ruminate too much. Start afresh and give your entire self over to a new marriage -- but if you don't, give yourself a second chance, you're only hurting yourself.

When you're married a second time, it is important that you have an open and honest talk with your spouse and can iron out any issues from the past that seems to make him /her apprehensive.

There are challenges even in a second marriage, and they may be wholly different from the first marriage that soured. A second spouse will obviously be a different personality type, with a different set of opinions. Even in a second marriage, you are going to have to work a little harder to make it live up to your expectations .

When the ghosts of the past marriage hover around your marriage, do not brood. Instead, show patience, fortitude and love to help your spouse tide over it. After all, you're headed for a pleasant future.

1. Broach the topic.

If you feel the unseen infiltrating your marriage, communicate to your spouse! But do it sensitively to let your spouse make the connection and realize what that is leading to. A polite way of doing it is saying that that you've seen him/her upset whenever this subject is brought up and that it's making you wonder if it reminds him/her of anything.

Once the idea of change sinks in, you'll see more apparitions as your mate makes efforts to drive the past from his/her system. Offer as much support as you can at this juncture to manage it.

2. Be patient.

Once the idea of change sinks in, you'll see more apparitions as your mate makes efforts to drive the past from his/her system. Offer as much support as you can at this juncture to manage it.

3. Do not take it to heart.

When your spouse overreacts, know where it is coming from.

4. Act maturely.

You may notice something in your behaviour that closely resembles the behavior/attitude of the previous partner tend to set him/her off. Get him/her to talk about the ghost, extract useful information to know what you can do to avoid triggering those explosions and monitor yourself closely.

5. Love unconditionally.

Your partner is probably clinging to the memories of the past marriage out of fear. Showing unconditional love may eventually help root out and destroy your spouse's ghosts.

6. Focus on improved behavior.

Aim for a change that focuses on her effort to change her responses toward you. Do not be perturbed by occasional outbursts. Offer encouragement by saying, "I deeply admire you for [identify the positive behavior] and I'm so happy you value our relationship. Your effort is already bringing us closer together. "